Make an Impact ~ Scatter Your Positivity Wherever You Go

coverpic4

Every time I wore that dress- which was practically every time I went out- I felt sensational, sexy, svelte, ritzy, elegant, early Lauren Bacall. The cut was terrific. People remarked on my figure. I’d throw on the dress, slip on my highest heeled Sergio Rossi shoes, grab my black crocodile Cartier clutch bag, and sail out of the front door just beaming with confidence.
When you’re from Leigh-on-Sea and the summit of your sartorial ambition for years was to ‘blend in’, I can’t tell you the kind of buzz I get from that ‘Yes, I’ve Got It’ feeling.

         ~Marcelle D’Argy Smith, writing in the Daily Mail newspaper

Yes indeed, we all get a buzz from that ‘I’ve got it’ feeling. The question is what does it for you? How can you get to feel that good?
When you feel good you look good and when you look good you feel good. Remember the last time you fell in love? That’s the intensity of feeling we are talking about here; when you are glowing inside and out, you are walking on air and oozing self-confidence. But you don’t have to be in love with a man to feel this good about yourself and your life; you can feel absolutely fabulous by just tuning into the real you.
A woman who knows herself carries a sense of inner security and self-awareness that shines out from her whether she is wearing a dress by Nicole Fahri or a pair of tracksuit pants from Marks and Spencer. Have you noticed how some people just stand out from the crowd whatever they are wearing? And very often these people are not even conventionally good looking, but somehow they catch the eye and make an impact wherever they go. The good news is that if they can tap into this charismatic energy then so can you.
The word charisma comes from Charis, one of the Three Graces in Greek mythology and it used to have a theological meaning: the divine gifts or attributes we each have within us. The reality is this: As soon as you stop trying to be someone else and begin to tune into your own uniqueness and originality you start to generate your personal charisma, and wherever you go you make a stunning impact. Confidence is the most alluring quality and you cannot buy it, but you can certainly create it. The most attractive woman in the room is the one who can just be herself: she knows her own strengths and weaknesses; she has self-respect and so generates respect from others and, most importantly, she is at home in her own skin: you can be this woman!

Your personal magnetism

We can increase the electromagnetic energy that surrounds us so that we readily attract whatever we are  radiating. As you increase your own personal life force you become a natural magnet to others. Everyone is drawn to the person who is openly enjoying and valuing her life and who is happy to demonstrate her appreciation of others.
Think of your magnetic field as a reflection of your aliveness and energy levels. Just how energised and buzzing are you right now? Give yourself a quick score out of ten, if ten is ‘I feel fabulous’ and one is ‘I am totally flat’. Most of you will be scoring well below ten; so don’t get disheartened. Instead take a look at the following list of possible energy drainers to discover exactly what might be depleting your own magnetic field.

Energy draining activities

  • Negative thinking. You know that this is always bad news. As soon as you indulge in this you lose your calm self-assuredness and begin to sound like a loser, not a good image! When you catch yourself wallowing around in the negative cycle of defeat just ask yourself, ‘Do I really want to be in this state? Am I sounding and looking good.’ This should be enough to zap you out of your pessimistic mind-set. Your thoughts are only as real as the energy you give to them. Get positive, get charismatic, get happy and get a life!
  • Blaming others. This really puts people off you as well as cutting you off from your own creative powers. Confident people are high in ‘can-do’ energy because they take total responsibility for their personal circumstances. Look at it this way: if someone else is to blame for the position you find yourself in then you are left helplessly waiting for them to act on your behalf. Blaming energy is unattractive and creates all-lose situations.
  • Trying to be like someone else. This is such a tiring and futile exercise. Every time you wish you look like ……..or want to be like…….., you are denying your own specialness. It’s OK to have role models but it’s not OK to be continually dissatisfied with what you are and what you have to offer. Decide to become a first rate version of yourself and life will get so much simpler and more interesting. When you have the confidence to be yourself you no longer feel the need to compete with others to prove that you are worthy. Believe me, you are worth it, just the way you are.
  • Having regrets. So you made a mistake and you wish you hadn’t! But if there is nothing you can do about it now at least accept this one benefit: Learn from it. One of the most obvious features of a confident person is their ability to learn from personal faults and then to let go of them. If you are living in the past you are in the wrong time zone; shake off those cobwebs and get into the present moment, this is where the real powerful action is.
  • Feeling resentment. This ties up so much of your energy in a useless and totally negative activity. If you are feeling resentful of anyone at the moment just stop and look at it logically. What good are you doing? What harm are you doing to yourself? Every time you have an angry thought about another person you increase your bitterness quotient and that is all that you do. You don’t need me to tell you that anger and sourness will always make the wrong impact.
  • Being critical. Whether you are self-critical or are judging others you will diminish yourself. Have you noticed how the most unpopular people are the most critical? You cannot and will not show yourself off to advantage if you are looking for the worst in yourself or in others. If you know that you are inclined to do this, stop immediately. When you are tempted to say something negative about another person just don’t go there. As my dad says, ‘If you can’t find anything nice to say about someone then don’t say anything.’

Stop all energy draining activities and you will find that your energy levels will shoot up; you will also feel lighter and brighter and more optimistic. As your electromagnetic energy increases you will notice that you are attracting new and interesting people and opportunities, and you will find it easier to resolve personal difficulties.
Take a moment here to ‘tune into’ your personal energy field. Imagine that your aura is shining bright and crackling with electricity. Feel the energy surrounding your physical body and become aware of it as you move about your daily business. You take your vibrations with you wherever you go so make sure they are good vibrations!

Copyright © Lynda Field

Advertisements

2 thoughts on “Make an Impact ~ Scatter Your Positivity Wherever You Go

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s